Yes, you read it right: run from your feelings. Run when you are afraid of something. Or run when you are really sad and don’t know how to cope with things. I remember doing the latter. I was surrounded by friends at a funeral and it felt nice having people who care standing with you. Of course I appreciated it and I realized I am not left alone. But if you’ve been in a similar situation, you will agree with me that it does not change the fact that you are sad or hurting. I stood outside just with my friends – it was dark – and I looked down the empty street and that was the first time I saw something in that emptiness. A hope. The necessary hope that if I ran fast enough, I’d feel better or free. The empty space suggesting “Run from your feelings!”. And it helped.
Sometimes, you have to run further than just down the road.
Perhaps you should take a plane or train somewhere for the weekend or a couple nights. Experience the freshness of new places and new faces. It will distract most likely and it will lift you up – the plane literally, the trip mentally. Have the courage to run from your feelings because as soon as you move it will start to fall behind and can fill you with fresh air. You may feel you don’t even need a destination. Just go and try escape your feelings. Let the wind blow it off you.
Run a marathon to sweat out your feelings. Drop by drop, mile by mile. Run because there is so much space for it and without running, you’d never get past the uncomfortable. Even the earth never stops moving. Learn from our planet and move. Move in the direction where your soul deeply wants to go. To cope and dodge the feelings you don’t want. Run because it will teach you a huge lesson.
Run to learn that you cannot run from your feelings.
And you should still do it. It’s a hard but inevitable lesson to learn. You should run down the empty street like I did, because you will realize your feelings will outrun you. Running will eventually literally exhaust you. You cannot run forever because you need to catch your breath at one point. Because you will have to learn that you can’t run from something that is inside of you. You can’t be your own surgeon and cut out what you don’t feel like having anymore or are afraid of developing.
Be prepared to learn to live with grief. To like someone who won’t like you back. Prepare yourself for the possibility that even people close to you can disappoint you. Be prepared that sometimes you will give more than what you will get back. And embrace all of it. Make it yours. Dare to feel. And dare to admit it to yourself, because without that, you will be on the run inside of you for a long time. That’s not healthy and will make you restless. The sink will overflow if you don’t pull out the plug and damage the surroundings. Likewise, you won’t get fed if you don’t swallow the food. Chew on it though!
Stand with what you feel. And let it make you strong instead of weak.
Run from your feelings to realize you can not escape them.
Then plant them, water them. And in time, if they grow into flowers, give or keep them. If they grow into weeds…it’s okay if they might grow back over and over every time you weed your garden. Just don’t let them be the only plants you take care of. Let them grow, but remember to pluck them out when they’re “ready”. Don’t let weeds cover your whole garden. Don’t let grief or sadness or bitterness wrap around you forever. Let them come and go. Come. And go. Like waves that cleanse.
Run, travel, move – even though you can’t escape your feelings, but because it can help you process and feel alive.