I know this might come a bit late for some of you. Or seem late anyway. But it’s still January!
I promise this won’t be another post that refers to all the things gone wrong or things that haven’t turned out how we hoped in 2016. We have enough of those. Let us not linger on the negatives. Let us not look back in the past constantly, forgetting there is a future. That there is a present. There’s a new year.
This won’t be a typical post about cool standard new year’s resolutions either. How about instead, we think of some for humanity? How about coming together as one instead of many individuals?
Maybe we’ve been trying long to achieve working together. But the more people start to value cooperation and believe in it, the closer we get to actually moving forward, even if with baby steps. After everything the world, humanity, has been through, I believe now more than ever that we should and that we can look to the future with hope. Because there has always been and always will be hope. So here’s three new year’s resolutions.
1. Less Consuming, More Creating
Do you really need what you paid for? I know, there are loads of things you pay for that are for entertainment, that you could live without. And that’s alright if it’s healthy for you. But let’s be real: the world is dominated by consumerism. How many ads do you see per day? How much do you spend for something you could have less of? How much food do you throw away because in the end you just didn’t use it up or eat it and now it got bad? (Tip: If you know you’re not going to use something, you could offer it to someone else!) We should try and spend less on things that are not as important as we like to make them appear. Furthermore, we could start asking ourselves why we are consuming. If we are constantly buying something to feel better or to feel a rush, is that right? Surely there are other ways to satisfy our needs or to be happier. Let’s be less artificial and more productive. There are things you can make yourself. We take so much and fall into the trap that is disguised as “You want this, you need this, get it.” It’s time we start to create more than consume.
Strange how most of us walk past a homeless people avoiding eye contact. They’re going to beg for money anyway, huh? It’s good to be in control of your life. It’s good to be successful. It’s good to be safe, yes! But guess what! The beggar in that busy street is just as human as you. And I don’t mean to start preaching about going out and helping the poor (even though that’d be an amazing plan), I don’t mean to repeat what many inspirational writers, blog posts, articles contain about homeless people. My mere aim is to tell you you’re not better than that homeless dude who “looks like a junkie”. What does it take you to stop for a moment and ask if you can get them something to eat. “Oh they won’t appreciate! They only want money.” And what do you want? Why do you go to work? What do you need to live? Exactly: money. Look, I’m not asking you to give money. But why not ask if you could get them something to eat? Give them a sweater, blanket, anything you think might be useful to them. It’s about giving and caring. I know, there are homes. But this is not about knowing there are people who are willing to be responsible for our fellow people in need. In that moment you are there. And you can make a difference. You can make someone’s day. Perhaps even yours.
3. Build Bridges
Trust is a very fragile thing. An expensive thing to give and get. Invisible too. But we all need it more than we dare admit. It’s not bad to be cautious and skeptical but I feel like much of it created this distrust throughout the world. I suppose there has almost always been distrust, but I can only dream of how much of a better place this planet would be if humans could be more trusting. If we built bridges instead of tearing them down or letting them fall apart by not caring for them. Relationships fall apart because the bridge between two people either hasn’t been crossed in a while or has been abused. Be a nurturer, be a carer. Don’t be afraid to lose with giving, because when you give, you will always, always receive it back somehow. Don’t wait for it.
These are my thoughts. Maybe they’re also yours? We all wait for a difference, for a change in how things go and how the world looks. And given how recent events have turned out, I believe many if not every one of us is disappointed. We’ve all been disappointed at some point in our lives I guess. You know how it feels. The wish for things to be different or have happened different makes us want to bring change. Sometimes we accept any change that looks good at first. About 80 years ago things didn’t look as bright either. People were in need of jobs, there was a lot of unfairness. And you know, sometimes people step forward with something great they believe in, saying things can be better if that and if this is being reinvented or thought over again. Truth is, though, that yes, while putting trust in one person that will lead a group is a good start, it’s not necessarily a start we should rely on solely. Sometimes it takes one goal, one motivation instead of one person to hold that in their hands. In the end, it’s still the group that is stronger and the side that has more hands and eyes. One person can quickly turn a thought into something that benefits only them. So instead of leaving the problems to one person that is motivated by a goal, we should rather have that goal in our own hands as a whole and let that lead us.
Let the good things be our goals and lead us. Not us leading the good things that can so easily be shifted into something selfish. We are here together.